Baby Massage: Techniques, Benefits & Safety | Parenting Hub
Gentle baby massage can soothe wind, settle a fussy baby and build connection. Learn simple strokes, when to avoid massage, and how to read your baby's cues.
Baby massage is a gentle way to calm your baby, ease tummy wind and build connection. The best time is when your baby is calm, awake and fed — not when they are overtired, hungry or unwell.
Best time to massage
Choose a moment when your baby is calm, fed and alert. After a bath or before bedtime can work well. If your baby turns their head away, stiffens, cries or becomes fussy, stop and try again another time.
Simple strokes to try
Use a small amount of plain, unscented baby oil or moisturiser. Warm it in your hands first. Use slow, gentle pressure and watch your baby's cues throughout.
- Legs: long strokes from thigh to ankle, like gentle milking.
- Tummy: clockwise circles around the belly button to follow the bowel.
- Back: long, slow strokes from neck to bottom with baby on their tummy or side.
- Feet and hands: gentle circular pressure on the soles and palms.
When to skip massage
Avoid massage if your baby has a fever, is vomiting, has a rash or skin infection, or seems unwell. If your baby was born premature or has medical needs, ask your neonatal team or MCH nurse for guidance first.
When to seek help
- Baby cries or seems distressed during massage — stop and try again later
- Baby has a fever, rash, diarrhoea or vomiting — skip massage and seek advice if concerned
- Tummy is very firm, swollen or baby is drawing legs up in pain — see a doctor
- Skin breaks out after using oil or moisturiser — stop and speak to your GP
Common questions
Can baby massage help with wind?
Gentle clockwise tummy massage and bicycling the legs can help move wind and stool. It doesn't cure colic or reflux, but it may comfort a baby who is uncomfortable.
What oil should I use?
Use a plain, fragrance-free, edible-grade oil such as sunflower, grapeseed or coconut oil. Avoid nut oils if there is a family allergy history, and avoid essential oils on babies.
How long should a massage last?
Even 5–10 minutes is plenty. Stop when your baby has had enough. Short, calm massages are better than a long session where your baby gets overstimulated.